Nothing ventured, nothing gained

When we talk about personal development, there are many factors that contribute to our growth, or lack of. 

We are born into a family, we do everything they tell us to, believe in their beliefs, their politics and their agenda, we are a product of our parents and our environment. But there comes a time, where we develop our own consciousness about the world around us and start to form our own opinions and beliefs, this can often lead to feelings of conflict, especially if it goes against our traditional family ideologies. 

Did you ever feel something inside you, something you couldn’t explain? 

Well, there’s good news… you’re not alone! This is part of developing your own consciousness, you carry with you the blood of your ancestors, and just how the world has changed a lot since their time, you too have changed a lot through your own experiences and interactions within the world, this may lead you to ask questions about what you’ve been previously taught, and in the most extreme scenario, question the character of a someone you previously believed in.  

It’s good to feel what you’re feeling, and when ready, deal with it if necessary. Sometimes this can be scary, but it’s through these experiences we grow the most. To enjoy the view first, you have to climb the mountain, but only when you’ve started climbing, can you look back and see how far you’ve come, everyone is climbing their own mountain, whether they’re conscious of it or not. I am not a psychologist, councillor or professional writer, I’m just sharing my own experience with you, in the hope it may give you some encouragement in life and aid you in your own personal development.  

Therapy is a big part of my life. At first, the idea was daunting…much like looking at the top of a mountain from the bottom… however believe me when I tell you… it’s a really beautiful view the higher you go. During the climb, I’ve learnt a lot about myself, and unbagged my emotional weight, making my ascent a lot easier, trust me, you can decide to do it too, as the old saying goes, “nothing ventured, nothing gained.”

Last week I took part in a Zoom video call with a few strangers, and some friends. We talked about self-esteem. First, we introduced ourselves, and gave a brief explanation about how to defy the term, and shared our own personal experiences around it. I discovered a lot, that I’m not alone, even though I didn’t know some of the people in the call, we all shared a bond at that moment. Once out of my comfort zone, I was able to learn a little more about myself, I still have a long way to go, however, I feel like I’m on the right path of who I want to be, and defining the person who I wish to become, and if you’re reading this, that means you are already on this journey too, and just know, we have a bond and I believe in you. 

Keep climbing… 

Sheerine